It was by accident that I stumbled upon the book Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World at the library. I was looking for books to help me to better understand my more introverted children, and this one seemed interesting. So I took it home with no particular expectations.
So it was a great surprise that as I read the book, I found explanations of my own actions, behaviors, and tendencies as an introvert. On top of that, the book opened my eyes to see that a number of the more challenging patterns of behavior (see below) of my one especially introverted child are owing primarily not to a disobedient or selfish spirit, but to his God-given nature!
The book is divided into four sections. First, the author provides definitions for introversion and extroversion. Subsequently, the author explains how introverts behave at home, school, and the social environment. The purpose of the book is to help parents and teachers help children discover their strengths as introverts and enable them to thrive in a typically extroverted world.
According to this book, an introvert is someone who prefers one-on-one or small group settings, needs solitary time to recharge, and thinks deeply. Living in an overstimulated environment often lead to frustration and inability to cope, which in turn results in explosive outbursts and lack of communication. In order to help the child thrive, a calm, loving, and understanding home environment is needed. When school settings and social interactions are overwhelming, introverts need to find (or be taught) ways to decompress, properly communicate and control their emotions.
Though an introvert myself, I had never studied what the ramifications were of my make-up, and how it affected the ways I acted and reacted to the world around me. One would imagine that as an introvert, I would’ve better understood my one particular introverted child better, but that was not the case. The book provided the knowledge I lacked — both for myself and my introverted child(ren) — and allowed me to see introversion not simply as a disadvantage, but as something God designed for a purpose. The insights I’ve culled from it make me recommend this book for everyone, whether introverts or extroverts.